You may be wondering if it's safe, if it will feel different, and what positions are appropriate as your belly grows. It's totally normal to wonder! That's why in this article, we're diving deep into everything you need to know about sex during pregnancy.
We want to reassure you that, in most cases, having sex during pregnancy is not only safe, but can also help to strengthen the bond between you and your partner during this unprecedented time. Of course, there are times and circumstances where caution is advised, and we'll cover those too. So, whether you're in your first, second, or third trimester, sit back and let us guide you through this topic in the informative, yet informal, way you've come to expect from us. Let's get started!
Can I have sex during pregnancy?
Many expectant parents wonder if it is safe to make love during pregnancy. The answer is generally yes Yes, unless there are specific complications or advice from your midwife or gynaecologist that indicates otherwise. Of course, it is important to take into account how you feel. The need for intimacy can differ per trimester, as can your body perception.
In a normal pregnancy, there are several safe ways to enjoy together. Here are some tips:
-
- Look for comfortable positions that don't put pressure on the abdomen.
-
- Communication is key; talk to your partner about your wishes and boundaries.
-
- If necessary, use additional pillows for support.
| Trimester | Advice | Tip |
|---|---|---|
| First trimester | Listen carefully to your body, fatigue and nausea can affect how you feel. | Try to take advantage of the morning, when you feel fitter. |
| Second trimester | Usually women feel more energetic and their desire for sex increases. | Experiment with different positions to find out what feels most comfortable. |
| Third trimester | Things may be getting a little uncomfortable now; listen carefully to what still feels comfortable. | Spooning can be a nice position during this phase. |
It is important that you always listen to your own body and follow the instructions of your healthcare professional. Sex should not hurt. If at any time you experience discomfort or concerns, please contact your midwife or gynaecologist. They are ready to answer all your questions and guide you through this special time.
More or less sense
Throughout your pregnancy, you'll notice that your feelings and needs can change constantly – and this includes your libido. It's completely normal to have an increased desire for sex at certain stages of your pregnancy, while at other times you may not feel the need at all. Hormonal fluctuations play a big role in this. For example, fatigue and nausea can decrease your desire in the first trimester, but many women experience an increase in their libido during the second trimester, when these early symptoms subside.
In addition, it is important to know that every pregnancy is different and therefore every body reacts differently. Some expectant mothers experience a increased blood flow to their genitals which can lead to more desire for sex and even more intense orgasms. However, it is also possible that the physical changes in your body make you feel less attractive or comfortable. Below you will find an overview of tips to deal with these changing feelings:
-
- Communication with your partner is key. Share your feelings, desires but also your doubts or insecurities.
-
- Experiment with different positions that are comfortable for your changing body.
-
- Always listen to your body. If something hurts or just doesn't feel right, stop and try something else.
-
- Remember that intimacy doesn't always have to be about sex. Cuddling, kissing, or taking a bath together can also be very nice.
The dynamics between you and your partner may change, but together you can find new ways to stay close and enjoy each other during this special time.
Postures
Being pregnant doesn’t have to get in the way of intimacy, but some positions may be more comfortable than others as your belly grows. It’s important to know which ones are both safe and enjoyable. Always listen to your body and adjust as needed, communication with your partner is key.
Some recommended ones are:
-
- The spoon: Lying on your side, with your partner behind you. This position puts minimal pressure on your belly while allowing for close, comfortable contact.
-
- The edge of the bed: You lie on your back at the edge of the bed with your knees bent while your partner stands in front of you. This can be a comfortable way if lying down becomes more difficult.
-
- Sitting: Sitting can be a good option if your belly is in the way. Try sitting on your partner's lap, facing each other or away from each other, depending on what feels comfortable.
In addition to experimenting with these positions, adding pillows for extra support can help make the experience more enjoyable. Remember, the most important thing is that you both enjoy and are comfortable with the position you choose.
Problems during sex
Sex during pregnancy can sometimes be accompanied by certain discomforts. It is important to know that these problems are common and that there are often simple solutions. For example, you may experience a changed libido, where you may have more or less desire for sex. This is completely normal and varies per trimester. In addition, physical changes, such as increased sensitivity or discomfort, can affect your sexual experience.
A common problem is also a feeling of uncertainty or fear, especially about the possibility of harming the unborn child. It is important to know that sex will not harm the baby, provided that there are no medical contraindications such as placenta previa or risk of premature birthBelow are some practical tips to address these challenges:
-
- Communication: Discuss your feelings and any concerns with your partner. Open communication can help you find a path together that works for both of you.
-
- Try different positions: Some positions may be more comfortable than others. Experiment together to see what works best.
-
- Lie comfortably: Use pillows for extra support and comfort during sex.
-
- Focus on intimacy: Sex isn't just penetration. There are many ways to be intimate. Explore other forms of intimacy together.
| Trimester | Common problems | Tips |
|---|---|---|
| 1st trimester | Fatigue, nausea | Shorter sessions, focus on non-penetrative acts |
| 2nd trimester | Increased libido | Experiment with positions, enjoy the increased sensitivity |
| 3rd trimester | Physical discomfort, uncertainty | Communication, pillows for support, focus on intimacy |
Please keep in mind that every body and every pregnancy is unique. What works for one person, may not work for another. The most important thing is to listen to your own body and do what feels best for you and your partner. If you have any concerns or doubts, don't hesitate to consult your midwife for tailored advice.
Your partner
During this special time in your lives, it is understandable that many questions arise about how you can continue to experience intimacy. It is important to communicate openly and honestly with each other about everyone's needs and possibly changing desires. Listen carefully to each other and discuss what feels comfortable and what might need to be adjusted. It is essential to remember that having an intimate relationship during pregnancy is safe for most couples, but there may be times when you need to be more cautious.
Below you will find a number of tips to get through this period as pleasantly and safely as possible:
| Stage of pregnancy | Points of attention | Recommended Activities |
|---|---|---|
| First trimester | Nausea, fatigue | Short walks, Cuddle time |
| Second trimester | Increased energy, possibly more comfortable | Yoga for pregnant women, Visiting the swimming pool |
| Third trimester | Reduced mobility, discomfort | Exchange massage, Intimate conversations |
This chart is intended as a guide to help you navigate the different stages of your pregnancy comfortably and lovingly. You will always be the best judge of what is needed and desirable. Remember: intimacy is not just physical; emotional and mental connection are just as important.
Resume
We hope this article has given you some insight into the world of lovemaking during pregnancy. Remember that every pregnancy is unique and it is important to do what feels best for you and your partner. If you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact our team at Verloskundigen PuurBegin. We are here to support you with personalized advice tailored to your situation.
Let intimacy remain a source of pleasure and connection in this special period of your life. Enjoy this unique time together with your partner and always listen to your body. When in doubt, the rule is: consult your midwife. This way, together we can ensure that your baby can make a loving start.
Stay informed!
Follow us on social media for the latest news and a look behind the scenes Midwives PuurBegin in Kampen.
Discover the daily adventures of our midwives, valuable tips for expectant parents and inspiring stories from practice.
Click on the buttons below and stay connected with our heartwarming team!
 |
 |
Sincerely,
Midwives PuurBegin
Address: Orkestlaan 148, 8265RC Kampen
Telephone: 085 40 19 095
English 
Dutch 
Polish